Youths & Singles


Many Christian Youth wonder what it takes to be a good friend or how to cultivate lifelong friendships. As a Christian you are often taught the importance of working on your relationship with God, but God also asks us to develop our relationships with one another. Here are some ways that you can be a better friend:


Friends see each other with no judgment. This does not mean that you are going to like all of your friend’s choices. However, there is a way to share your opinion without being judgmental. Also, try to find out more information about why your friend is making some of those choices. It may offer you greater understanding.


Are you an honest person? Honesty is a very important trait of a good friend. Friends trust each other to help them in difficult situations. Proverbs states that “Honesty guides good people, dishonesty destroys treacherous people,”NLT). If being dishonest destroys people, it also destroys friendships.


Listening to your friend can help you grow closer. Listening is very different from hearing. You need to not only hear what the other person is saying, but you will need to offer feedback and assurance that you actually understand what your friend is saying. Nodding your head and repeating back what he or she is telling you will enhance your communication and make your friend feel better about your relationship.


Giving is often better than receiving. Find ways to give to your friend and expect nothing in return. Giving is more than just buying presents. You can give your time and your help. You can intercede in prayer for your friend. Offer to help with homework or cover a shift at work.


Friends need to have fun with one another. Make sure you are doing things you both like and laughing together. While it is nice to have a friend that supports you in times of trouble, if all your times are filled with strife then that is what will define your friendship. Make sure you have fun together, too.


While it is important to be honest and compromise with your friend, it is also important to have trust in your friend. If you always question your friend’s motives, you will never open yourself up to developing a close relationship. While trust takes time to develop, let go of your own insecurity once in a while to give your friend the benefit of the doubt.


Sometimes a friend just needs a shoulder to cry on or a cheer from the audience. Be supportive of your friends. When your friend says he or she is running for class office, be the first to volunteer your campaign services. When your friend is crying after her boyfriend broke up with her, be the shoulder for her to cry on – Let Him / Her know that is not the end of the world. That Christ Loves Her more than His Boyfriend.


Now that you are still young and single is the best time to lay a solid foundation for your future.

It is for this purpose that this column is a must read, for every youth and single as the keys to a life of greatness shall be delivered into your hands.

Interestingly, there is a God-given ability in every youth that makes him or her differ from the aged. Young people are known for their unusual strength, zeal and unique divine ability to pursue after a given assignment with passion. They need to be taught how to channel this unique passion, zeal and strength aright.

Concerning God’s plan for the youth, the Bible says: That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace: (Psalms 144:12).

From the above scripture, it is evident that the growing up process of sons and the polishing of daughters are in the days of youth. It is the season of preparation for the future. It holds opportunities that if fully maximized, will make for a great future.

Your closeness to God as a single person is the bedrock of your future life, the security of your destiny. Someone may say, “How do you mean? I am a Christian, I am born again and I even speak in tongues!” Well, thank God for your life. But no matter how near you are to God right now, you can draw nearer still.

Draw near to God! It is for your good, not God’s. God is not dependent on you; rather you are dependent on Him. When you draw near to God, He will draw near to you. Your closeness to God has to be initiated by you. God’s Word says: Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.

Personally, I have found out that the closer you walk with God, the more you see the need to draw closer yet. I love the song of one great songwriter that says, “Just a closer walk with you, grant it Jesus this is my plea…”

Are you due for marriage? Please be aware that God has not forgotten you! God cannot mismanage your life. Stop searching for a marriage partner at all cost. Let Jesus be your first priority by making Him your Lord, your Boss and be deeply committed to Him. This is the excellent foundation for your future (Matthew 6:33).

There are some single persons that chase marriage as a dog chases a rabbit, especially those who are of marriageable age. For you who are in the kingdom, it ought not to be so. To anybody on this site I say, “Relax!”

It should not be marriage at all cost. Remember that Adam was put to a deep sleep before his wife manifested (Genesis 2: 21-22). Pursue, chase God; not marriage and every other thing shall be added unto you, including a glorious marriage. Make God your focus in life, not marriage. God’s Word says: Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD (Proverbs 18:21).

‘Find’ in the above scripture means, ‘to discover along the way.’ So, when you are in a close relationship with God, along the way, you will miraculously discover your marriage partner. Don’t join those who attend meetings and gatherings primarily in search of a marriage partner. They are merely searching, matching and comparing potential candidates.

Ensure you attend fellowship regularly. Let it become a part and parcel of your life. Attend Christian gatherings. Meet with other believers of like minds and share fellowship together. God’s Word says: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching (Hebrews 10:25).

Don’t just be a Christian who go to church only on Sundays. Be not deceived, what you sow determines what you reap. When I was in high school as a young girl, five of us, girls, formed a group and we always had times of prayer, Word study and fellowship. Those days, I believe were a kind of spiritual deposit into the future, from where I am still drawing dividends today after many years.

Do you desire the blessing of marriage? Seek God first and a glorious mate shall be an addition to you. You can do this by confessing your sins, repenting of them and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today as a sinner. Forgive me my Sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your kingdom.

Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God. I await testimonies of glorious turn-a rounds in your homes.

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Leadership Characteristics

One major duty of a leader is that of being explicit, detailed and thorough.

–        A leader who assumes that followers should know what to do often ends in disappointment and frustrations.

–        Followers are to be instructed and guided.

Jesus was very explicit over every instruction He gave to His disciples.  He told them what to say, where to go, who to preach to, e.t.c. Matt.10:1-7“…These twelve Jesus sent forth, and commanded them, saying, Go not into the way of the Gentiles, and into any city of the Samaritans enter ye not… But go rather to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. And as ye go, preach, saying, the kingdom of heaven is at hand…”

–        A leader that wants to succeed must never make any assumption.

–        If you don’t teach your followers you can’t blame them.

Therefore, teach them to lead them.


In your leadership endeavor the scripture enjoins that you be gentle to all.  II Tim.2:24“A servant of the Lord must not quarrel. Instead, he must be kind to everyone. He must be a good teacher. He must be willing to suffer wrong” (ASV) But not to the point of being a dummy. Be gentle but at the same time smart.

–        Christ was gentle but not a dummy. John 8:6-9 “…When they persisted in asking him questions, he straightened up and said, “The person who is sinless should be the first to throw a stone at her…”(KJV)

–        That you are quiet shouldn’t make you stupid.

–        Gentleness is a spiritual virtue but being a dummy doesn’t represent redemption.  We are redeemed from foolishness into wisdom.

–        Jesus was gentle in the Spirit but obviously was sound in His mind to the recognition and envy of all. Matt.13:54 “…Whence hath this man this wisdom and these mighty works?” (KJV)

–        There is no conflict between the two, be gentle but refuse to be treated as a dummy.

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5 responses

22 09 2010

you’ve really blessed my life. please can i get daily encouragement from you. thanks

24 09 2010
I Love God

God is Faithful Joshua. For daily words of edification, Please subscription for our email listing and have them delivered to you on a daily basis. Welcome to your season of Rest

14 04 2010

wat is it that we r meant 2 do…………

14 04 2010

We call it the simple key guard to Success “This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. ” – Joshua 1:8 – We spotted you on our Facebook Page…Welcome

8 04 2010


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